Hello Beloved friends,
how joyful we are to share this worthy information; about the realities of life to those who are single, those in relationships and those who are in marriage.
To those who are single, this is a good check-point as you develop such character that is a basic need for a relating person,
and to those in relationship, this is a good check-point to improve in the areas of your life,
and above all, that you are now a parent in your home, this is vital to solve wrangles and misunderstandings caused by one of the spouse desiring to lead the home by the norms of the society, rather than God’s standard, especially through what nature of dress code should you raise your Children through.
THE ARTICLE IS A FORWARDED ONE FROM MY FIANCE, WHO FOUND THIS WORTH TO SHARE WITH ME.
I HAVE READ THIS ARTICLE FIRST WHILE ON MBALE MISSION (19TH-28TH AUGUST 2011) AND THE LAST DAY, I HAD THE PLEASURE TO READ IT TO EVERY MISSIONER AND OUR ALUMNI; SOME WERE STUDENTS, AND AS WELL PARENTS WHO JOINED US TO ASSIST ON THE GROUND CO-ORDINATION.
“I have loved the article, it actually reminds me this morning, how my wife had dressed our daughter in these tight leggings nature of clothes with a top, and I told her not when she is going to Church.This should be when its cold here and she needs to feel warm. So many parents today, compromise with the dressing of their children, under-estimating the impact in the long-run. Thank you Vincent for that article and I pray i receive it.”
M. Robert (UCU ALUMNI 2003-MUSTARD SEED CHOIR ALUMNI), comment on the article.
“Papa (when u are the chairperson of a fellowship, you are called papa),
that articles speaks reality, its very true. Many girls compromise on dress code and the results are justifiable.
Please email me that article. She called Monday, 29th reminding me to send it soon.”
Betty (ALUMNI 2009 TO LAW FELLOWSHIP)
HERE IS THE ARTICLE
Wow, here is an article i think you will find interesting, as a Christian young man! I appreciate you appreciating me for my modesty, it means SO MUCH TO ME, TO HAVE FOUND A MAN WHO APPRECIATES A LADY WHO RESPECTS HER OWN BODY, AND DOESN’T SHOW IT OFF!!
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“A Letter To Girls I Know (on Modesty) (author’s name removed at his request)
A Letter to the Girls I Know:
Dear Girls,
There are two kinds of men: Godly men, and worldly men. What kind of man do you want? I’m betting most of you said “a Godly man.” Someday, you want to marry a man who loves God with every fiber of his being because he will be an excellent husband and father. He will honor and be true only to you.
Most women want a Godly man or at least think they do. Well, I think I have found a way to tell you exactly what kind of guy you will get. I don’t even have to know you! All I have to do is look at you.
The kind of guy you want or will get is advertised by the clothing you wear.
I know what men want. Trust me, I am a guy. I know more guys than you do and I know them better. I know what we think, what we talk about, what we want, and what we look for, and it is different for each one of us DEPENDING ON OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.
I’m sure you already know this, but men were created differently than you. We have different desires and priorities. Our eyes and minds react very differently to some things than yours do. It isn’t disgusting, perverted, or wrong; it is wonderful and good! It is how God made us.
IT’S HOW WE HANDLE THESE DIFFERENCES THAT SEPARATE A GODLY MAN FROM A WORLDLY MAN.
A worldly man doesn’t control himself, rather, he looks at anything that attracts his attention or gets him excited. A worldly guy has no problem when girls wear clothes that show off skin, like boxers, high or low-cut shirts, low-rise jeans, and “cute” little swim-suits. He’s a fan of tight-fitting shirts and pants that show off your form, he thinks they’re fine! Worldly guy watches a lot of TV and R-rated movies, isn’t really offended by sexual content or nudity and secretly dabbles in pornography. He’s a “Christian” and makes up a significant portion of your church and youth group. He’s a really nice guy and sees you mainly for your body. If you were to marry worldly guy, he’d bring lots of baggage into the relationship, have intimacy problems, entertain thoughts of other women, and possibly cheat on you.
A Godly man is in control of his drives and desires. He constantly seeks God and reads his Bible. He “walks in the Spirit” and isn’t set off by everything he sees. When immodestly-dressed girls, magazine covers, or risqué advertisements come into view, Godly guy quickly “bounces his eyes” away from the image. He’s constantly guarding his thoughts and what he allows into his mind. He hates being around girls that disrespect him and his struggles by wearing inappropriate attire. Godly guy doesn’t watch much TV and is selective about the movies he sees. He views you as a person, knows you and respects you. He has your best interests in mind and guards against inappropriate thoughts of you. If you were to marry Godly guy, he would give you the emotional attention you need, he would ignore other women and remain faithful to you no matter what.
Unfortunately, there are more worldly men than Godly men.
And to make matters worse, to the untrained eye, a worldly man can look a lot like a Godly man. So what can you do to only attract a Godly man? An important way of delineating between them lies in how you dress.
As mentioned before, the clothes you wear advertise what kind of guy you are looking for. If you dress immodestly, you will attract worldly guys and scare away the Godly ones. It all comes down to the kind of man you want to spend your time around and eventually marry. You cannot afford to be complacent in this area of your life! You will pay the price someday.
This issue isn’t limited strictly to you and your future relationship. The way you dress directly affects other men and women and their relationships.
“You don’t see the struggles, the pain, the tears and the sin that you cause, but I can promise that you would be shocked if you did! Ask any Christian young man; we’ve all seen it. It’s kept hidden but it is definitely there. By dressing immodestly, you effectually spit on the struggles of our weaker ranks, appearing to care more about toying with us than helping us. You’ll never know how many broken relationships and lifestyles of sin you’ve contributed to simply by the way you dress.”
You want to marry a Godly man someday, well so do many other women. Don’t just help yourself and your future, help all women and their relationships by showing discretion in your dress.
Of course, I understand the desire to look stylish, attractive, and “cute.” It’s important to fit in and get attention. Trust me, it can be done modestly! I also understand that it is easier for some girls to find stylish and well-fitting clothes than it is for others. This is an area where guys really don’t understand what you are up against.
But just remember,
“for every sacrifice you make to honor God with your image, Godly men are making sacrifices in their lives that are just as hard, if not harder!”
“They will and do respect you so much for choosing to be modest!”
“A real lady is conscientious of the image she presents, and real men want a real lady.”
And you can forget about any guys missing out on how attractive you are because you don’t wear revealing clothing.”
“You could wear a circus tent and we would still know;IT’S THE GIFT WE HAVE.”
And so the question still remains:
What kind of man do you want?
Answer me with your clothes”
FORWARDED TO ME AND ME TO YOU,
VINCENT
WOW!!!!!!!!!
THANKS FOR VISITING AND WE HOPE YOU HAVE BEEN BLESSED!
THAT YOU KNOW THESE THINGS, DO THEM AND YOU WILL BE BLESSED. JOHN.13:17
